Now, before you go hating on the title of this post, hear me out. I truly believe in everything you do in life comes down to timing. Some of you might be saying well it just wasn’t meant to be, or make the decision now (the time is now). Yes, some of this could be true, but think of a time in your life where you were totally prepared for something. And if this event or person came into your life at an earlier time, it probably would not have lasted or you wouldn’t have been prepared. I’m sure you’ve heard many people say, “oh the timing wasn’t right, if you two met later in life it would have worked.” Now, some of you might nod your head at this saying, and say “well if he or she was the right person, you would still be together.” I have always gone back and forth with how we approach relationships and the timing of them. I believe that all of us are growing at a different pace, and sometimes two people aren’t at the same place when they meet and start a relationship. And that’s OKAY. I’ll give you an example (in the form of a professional experience).
I’m a big fan of Lewis Howes (podcast host of the School of Greatness). I’ve been listening to him for years and most recently went to The Summit of Greatness, which is an event he hosts in Columbus, Ohio. He mentioned at his event that this year he interviewed Kobe Bryant, and how if he interviewed him even last year he would not have been prepared and the timing of everything wouldn’t be good. I think this is a good example to look at even in business, that sometimes we aren’t prepared for everything. Lewis kept reiterating that he would not do a good interview if he had interviewed Kobe a year ago.
To me, timing is huge when you’re entering into a romantic relationship with a woman. Throughout your twenties you’re going to be figuring yourself out and what it is exactly you want to do with your life. Things change, people change, and you may drift away from certain people in your life. I believe everything happens for a reason, and in my opinion timing has a lot to do with that when entering into a relationship with someone. Where do you see yourself in five years? Where do you want to live? Is your job going to take you somewhere different years from now, if you choose to stay? Is your partner in grad school/college or whatever it may be? These are all important questions to ask yourself but more importantly discuss with your partner if you see something being long term. If you really take a look at statistics, most people find their long term spouse between the ages of 27-34. I don’t know the exact number, but thats the age range. Some marry earlier, some marry later. Some don’t get married. You do you, whatever that is. Some might find their life partner later in life, some might have multiple life partners over the course of their lives. The best thing to do is to not look at what the people around you are doing, but what you want to do and what makes you the happiest. A lot of your happiness will come from the person you are with, so choose wisely.