Damn, it was pretty easy meeting people from age 18-22ish right? Now, you’ve graduated college and you’re asking yourself “How in the *uck do I meet my people.” You know the people that get you, understand you, help you grow as a person and learn new things. You probably are starting to outgrow some of your friends, and might be avoiding them without really even realizing it. Do you ever feel drained after hanging out with a certain group of people? It’s almost as if you’re settling with friendships just like you may be settling with your romantic relationships too. I was always a big believer in hanging out with people that are doing what you want to do or living the lifestyle you aspire to live. Whether that be hanging out with someone who has the financial success you aspire to have or the super cool artist that has 500K followers on Instagram that you wish you has too (laugh out loud). I always want to talk to the smartest person in the room or play golf with the person who could kick my ass any day of the week. I listen, ask questions and shut up.
I think all of us reach a point in our lives where we outgrow certain relationships and that’s completely normal. It’s not something you should feel bad about, or wish it was different, but a sign that you are growing and a perfectly normal human being that is evolving into the person you were meant to become.
“The stories, thoughts, emotions and actions you put out into the world, is what you will attract.”
The vulnerable stories you tell, the actions you take, the lifestyle you live and the list goes on and on but you get the point (I hope).
You probably give yourself the story of I don’t have enough time in the day or week to go out and meet new people. Well, that’s just a story. You’re already setting yourself up for failure saying you don’t have enough time. We all have the same amount of time in any given day, so you should be asking yourself how badly you really want something, and that something might be meeting your crowd or your so called people. We have to make the effort. We can’t expect people to show up on our doorstep or the love of our life to walk into our lives. Yes, there are instances where it comes when you least expect it, but you can’t always rely on that story.
Go and do the things that you enjoy doing. Maybe that’s joining a group that does an activity that you enjoy. Such as hiking, skiing, biking, etc. You get the point, but go where you’ll find people who have similar interests. That’s the best way to meet new people!!!!
Don’t focus so much on meeting someone who you would date romantically, but just focus on meeting PEOPLE. When I was younger I could never just be friends with women. If I wasn’t dating them or having some type of sexual relationship with them it was very hard for me to have friends that were women. Now, that I’m a bit older I realize it doesn’t matter and just comes down to some type of self control. Be friends with everyone and don’t expect anything. Introduce yourself and go out of your way to talk to people. Conversations create opportunities!!